Musings on Attachment

Do you ever find yourself wondering about your relationship with your child?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Curiosity about the dynamic with your little one can create space to understand "the dance". Truly, two people interacting, both with needs, both holding an equal importance and place in the relationship.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It is often thought that "attachment parenting" means putting the baby or childs needs first 100% of the time. When we replace the word "attachment" with "relationship" we can then shift to see "relationship parenting" as keeping the relationship a priority instead of just 1 person ( the child). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When each person's needs in a relationship are met ( parent and child), we actually feel more closeness, less resentment and can see increased opportunity for connection with our children. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Maybe "relationship parenting" can include:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
taking space⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
saying no to your child when you're tired⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
letting your child know you love them when they hit, and labelling their feelings with them⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Soothing your child in the ways THEY enjoy being soothed⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Tuning out the noise and advice of others, and tuning into your values. What most important to me in this relationship?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Knowing your own limits⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Apologizing when a mistake is made⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Whatever brings you joy and increased connection in your relationship with your child, do that! See how your child responds, watch their facial expressions, be curious about what brings THEM joy in the relationship.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Relationship parenting.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We're here for that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀